I never really thought much about astrology until I got this vintage Pierre Cardin necklace (from here). When I first saw it, I knew I had to have it. I’m a sucker for gold necklaces, as it is, but this one felt extra special with the floating diamond that you can place on your actual birthday. Anyway, the necklace is beautiful, but it also got me to think way more about astrology than I ever had before. I actually had no idea what it meant to be a Capricorn and I wasn’t sure I believe all that astrology stuff anyway – that is, until I researched the Capricorn traits and quickly realized most of them fit me to a t.
I perused various websites to try to learn about the Capricorn traits, but this site nailed me nearly perfectly. The Capricorn sign “signifies stability, balance and wisdom […] They are sensitive, sensible and secure in their own space. They do not make impulsive decisions but will act aggressively to get what they want.”
You guys, seriously! This is me! My blog tag line is ‘your guide to sensible style’. In my daily work as a university administrator, I am regularly told I am assertive and I do work aggressively to get what I want – in work and in life. Although this trait can sometimes rub people the wrong way – I’ve experienced some people who are intimidated by strong women in the work place – but this is actually a trait I love about myself. If I want something, I don’t stop until I get it.
I don’t know how wise I am, but I do know I am pretty stable and I don’t make rash decisions. According to what I’ve read, by wise, they mean more about maturity, sensibility and not getting carried away in fantasy. This goes back to my practical nature. I apply logic and my brain to all of the decision I make. I need all the facts in order to make the best decision.
This is good and bad. Sometimes I was I could just ‘live in the moment’ more often and not worry so much about the future. My incessant need for more information means that I ask people a lot of questions, which can sometimes feel overwhelming for them. It’s actually caused strife in relationships I’ve had because they just wish I could ‘chill’ more often. At the same time, my stable, wise and practical nature makes people come to me regularly to ask for advice, knowing that I generally make good judgment.
Another trait that I definitely possess is a cautious nature. I am not one to take risks and I constantly overanalyze every situation before deciding. I personally think this is both good and bad. Good, because I usually do make the right decision, bad, because it means that I probably miss out on a lot of fun and enjoying the moment because I’m constantly thinking about the potential risks to my stable life.
There are a few Capricorn traits that definitely don’t feel like me. Those include patience and disciplined. I am disciplined when it comes to achieving a goal that I actually want, I am not so disciplined when it’s something I’m not 100% into – like diet and exercise. I’m not at all good at pushing myself if it’s something I don’t actually want to do. I also don’t think I’m very patient. There are times when I can practice a lot of patience, like when my kids were very little, but now that they’re older, my patience has waned a lot.
There are a few other Capricorn traits that I actually don’t think capture who I am. First is pessimistic. I do not think I am pessimistic at all; I actually think I’m an eternal optimist. Generally, I believe good things will happen for me. I believe the future is bright even in times of uncertainty and stress. I am glad I’m not a pessimist, as I think that would lead to a lot sadder life. I’m also not that stubborn. I do have strong feelings and a way I want things to get done, but I also am open to people’s suggestions and finding the best solution, even if it’s not mine.
Another Capricorn trait that fits me is being shy, especially when it comes to meeting new people. I remember a time recently when I was in New York with a friend and a few of their friends met us for drinks. Nearly immediately, I recoiled, became very shy, and felt extremely uncomfortable. There are two major reasons I think I get shy. First, I don’t do that well with the unknown, and new people are an unknown. Second, even if I wish I didn’t, I do care what people think of me, so for some reason, I get super self-conscious when I meet new people. The unfortunate part about being shy sometimes is that my shyness actually comes out as seeming bitchy or aloof. I’m not actually a bitch (well, not usually), but I seem super bitchy when I’m uncomfortable.
As you can probably tell, researching what it means to be a Capricorn has been super fascinating for me. It actually helped me to think through some of my strengths and weaknesses as a person. I’m on a quest to become my best self. That means thinking introspectively about the things about myself that I can change. It’s definitely a process. But I think it says a lot about who I am that I’m willing to learn and grow and try to be better. I just hope the people in my life can see that too.